We’re Having a Baby!
We have something to share that’s very important to us, but wholly unrelated to updates about Walt Disney World or Disneyland vacation planning. Nevertheless, we wanted to post about it because it’s major life news for us, and this is largely a personal blog.
Many of you have been with us since the beginning and truly feel like friends. You saw us a struggling college students, joined as we became engaged at Walt Disney World way back in 2007, got married, and honeymooned at Walt Disney World in 2010. You’ve spent many early mornings and late nights in the parks with us, like the photo above from August 2009. You’ve been along for the wild ride as we moved cross-country…several times…with Yossarian the Cat and Walter E. Dogsney, who are both as spunky as ever at ages 14 and 15 and only took a brief break from play-fighting for the photo below–the best of many outtakes!
You’ve been there as we’ve grown together, and we consider you all part of the DTB family. Even if you’re a more recent reader, it’s fair to say that we have all been through a lot together in the last few years. Well, now you’re about to embark upon another journey as we begin the next chapter and grow even further, this time in the literal sense…
We are incredibly excited to share with you all that we are expecting a baby! This has been a big secret to keep over the last several months, and you’re among the first people we’ve told. We are over the moon and our hearts are filled with happiness as we’ve begun this new journey. It’s been quite the emotional whirlwind for far longer, for reasons we’ll get into below.
It’s also been overwhelming, as we devour every parenting book and try to learn everything we need to know. We go from moments of pure elation–like feeling those first kicks–to true terror as we think about how on earth we’re going to babyproof this or that. Of course, we know these feelings are hardly unique or unprecedented. It seems like everyone goes through this, and the prevailing wisdom is that “it’ll be fine–you’ll figure it out.”
But if you’re learned anything from this blog, it’s that we’re planners. We like to test different strategies and iterate until achieving perceived perfection. That works better when it comes to rope dropping Magic Kingdom than it does for raising a human, it would seem. If an Early Entry approach doesn’t work, it can be retested the next day. The stakes are slightly higher here, so “you’ll figure it out as you go” are not exactly reassuring words.
Worried as we are sometimes, we’re also anxiously awaiting the opportunity to figure it out. To meet our baby. Learn about who they are. See their unique idiosyncrasies that makes each person special. Watch them grow up from newborn to infant and beyond, becoming their own person, with their own personality and preferences. Already, we’ve started to see and feel some of that, with our doctor and sonogram technician already using the words “feisty” and “active.” That sounds about right!
While we’re looking forward to learning about our baby, we’re also excited to shape and raise them. “What we will do when we are parents” in certain scenarios is an ongoing conversation that we’ve been having for years–over a decade. We’re already on the same page in terms of parenting philosophy after having spent years talking through these topics. Obviously, some of that will change and molded by circumstances and experiences, though.
But there are some things that are set in stone. It’s not a question of whether they’ll love Country Bear Jamboree, but rather, which bear will be their favorite. Conversely, our child won’t be an NFL wide receiver; not due to any qualms with the sport, but because…you’ve seen the two of us, right?!
There’s so much more that we can’t wait to learn about our baby as we welcome them to the world. We cannot wait for their first visit to Walt Disney World, Disneyland, and beyond, and have adventures as a family of three (plus Yossarian and Walter). There’s so much we can’t wait to experience and discover with our baby.
We’re also really and truly excited to have you along with us for the ride. Watch (or laugh at) us as we endure the Seven Dwarfs Mine Train Shuffle, but for the first time, having to navigate that crowd and chaos with a stroller. Join as do more character dining experiences, which we’ve been “banking” since learning this news. Watch as we meet Mickey Mouse for the first time anew, seeing him through the eyes of our child.
One very specific thing we’ve been waiting literally years to do with our baby is meet Figment. Before even getting married, we bought the Figment costume above for our future child to wear while meeting FigZilla. That costume has moved around the country with us a lot, and we almost got rid of it last fall when getting our stuff out of storage. What point was there in keeping it–given the unlikelihood of us having a kid and Figment having a meet & greet. Now that very specific, decade-plus old dream will soon come true.
Speaking of oddly-specific dreams, we will finally get to test strollers, Dwight Schrute style. (This is not really “our” dream, as only one of us has been excited about this for years…but we present a united front!) There’s so much we’re looking forward to seeing, doing, sharing. And frankly, we’re looking forward to picking your brains and soliciting feedback. There’s no substitute for lived experience, and many of you have been there and done that–both in raising kids and taking them on trips to the parks and other travels.
Obviously, some things are going to change on the blog with a baby on board. We’ve never had posts field-testing stroller speed, strength, and agility. All of our past character meal reviews were just the two of us as we attempted to awkwardly interact with face characters; that shouldn’t be as much of a problem now.
For those couples and solo travelers who liked this site because it wasn’t a family blog, there will undoubtedly be some posts to ignore. But a lot will also remain unchanged. For the duration of its existence, this blog’s writing sensibilities have skewed towards “dad jokes” and dated pop culture references. Hard to imagine that getting any better/worse than it already is.
Fundamentally, nothing is going to change. This isn’t like your favorite television show jumping the shark by switching showrunners or bringing in a new character to keep things fresh. This is not going to be Poochie, the “baby with an attitude.” Minor content additions aside, this site’s “voice” has not meaningfully changed over the course of the last decade–for better or worse–because it’s our voice. Rather, this is an addition to our family, and the DTB family by extension, and we want to share our happiness with you.
It has not always been this happy and joyous. In fact, if there are four words we did not expect to write on this blog at the start of 2023, they are “we’re having a baby!” This has been a painful process, and one that began several years ago. Many of you longtime readers might recall regular references to “when we have kids” in older posts; those quietly vanished a while ago.
We have been trying to conceive for the better half of the last decade, which is obviously not a normal timeline when things are going swell. Our journey reached its nadir during COVID, around which point we started seeing specialists and consulting professionals. The ordeal became an emotional albatross that weighed us down at a time when things already weren’t going exactly swimmingly in the world.
Our diagnoses were largely inconclusive, with various tests indicating different exacerbating factors, but it was essentially ‘unexplained infertility.’ That led us to pursue a variety options at a number of fertility centers. The whole process was less like medical treatment and more emotionally manipulative salesmanship, tugging on our heartstrings in an attempt to prey on us at our most vulnerable.
Worse yet, nothing worked. It’s impossible to overstate just how isolating and emotionally draining this was. Infertility was always front of mind or lurking nearby, with depressing and intrusive thoughts drowning out happiness at a moment’s notice. We withdrew as a defense mechanism, and struggled to put ourselves out there as much.
Sharing our own struggles with infertility was also a challenge. In general, few people know how to react to this sort of thing; some offer unsolicited advice, awkward silence, or unintentionally hurtful comments. Outside of our immensely supportive family and circle of close friends, this is the first we’ve opened up been about our struggles–and it’s only happening from the ‘safety’ of coming out the other end. It’s hard to fault anyone for not knowing how to approach this uncomfortable topic, as this is something people don’t really talk about.
Even having been on the receiving end of that, it’s still difficult for us to talk to people going through the same thing. It’s impossible to know what others needs to hear, what will help and what will hurt. (To that point, we will never forget the pain that led us here and sincerely hope the tone and tenor of this announcement is not hurtful for those who have or are still struggling with infertility, as our goal is comfort and not callousness.)
It took years, but we slowly started to come to terms with not being parents. We were finally ready to move on from what was, for us, truly the Dino-Rama of life experiences. It thus came as the ultimate surprise–in the best way possible–when the test came back positive and we learned that we would actually get to be parents.
We don’t want to weigh down happy news with heartbreak and grief, but such is life. Perhaps these words will bring some solace to those going through the same, or a bit of better understanding for those who have not faced reproductive challenges and heartbreak.
Part of the reason for sharing our struggles is offering solace, but admittedly, part is offering a bit of a glimpse behind the scenes and context for the future. We’re excited and we want to share this process…but we also have trauma from the past few years.
Part of this is probably normal for any new parents, but we find ourselves worried and fearful quite often. That something is going to go wrong and we’re going to have our miracle baby stolen from us. (We’ve postponed sharing this announcement several times, opting instead to get past the “next” milestone doctor’s appointment.)
This has been deeply personal and, honestly, we don’t know how much we’re going to feel comfortable putting ourselves and our child out there going forward. Even this blog post has been a challenge, taking far longer than you’d probably expect with several scrapped drafts along the way.
We’ve tried to thread the needle on over and under-sharing, while also trying to be mindful about sensities and scars others may have, and not inviting more painful questions in the process. We’d appreciate it if you’d please be patient with us, as we find our footing and prepare to be parents.
Although we’re not quite ready to share everything, there are a couple of things we can say to get out ahead of a couple questions. First, we do know the sex of the child and will be sharing that soon. (It took a surprising amount of effort and editing to not reveal it by accident here!)
Conversely, the baby’s “official” name won’t be shared until birth. We have a couple of frontrunners, but haven’t settled on a final pick…and aren’t looking for public feedback. What we can share is the baby’s nickname: Megatron. It started as an inside joke between us, but it’s such a strong and great name that many people are saying it should become the official name!
We can also share that Megatron is approximately the size of a Green Alien from Toy Story. Seriously. Well, not actually…those Green Aliens are fictional and their size is not canon, but that’s the claim of the “What to Expect” app, which has given us some highly-dubious size comparisons about Megatron on a weekly basis. Because we know “how big is the baby as compared to a fictional character?” was front of mind for all of you. (This wouldn’t be a DTB announcement without one pointless and rambling anecdote with zero payoff!)
Here’s one more thing we are happy to share–more maternity photos from the beach and Disney:
(Huge thanks to our friend Guy Selga, who graciously waited in line with us for characters and took these and many other photos of us all around Disneyland! Photos from the beach were taken by us.)
Ultimately, we can’t wait for what’s to come and for you all to join us on this journey! This is obviously huge and life-changing news for us, and an announcement that we’ve been waiting to share with you all for years. (Literally. We talked about taking maternity photos on the Future World fiber optic pavement and doing a “Tomorrow’s Child” announcement back when the Giant Epcot Dirt Pit™️ was a mere twinkle in Bob Chapek’s eye!)
We took for granted that we’d be parents back then, and have gone through so much since. The road here has been paved with heartbreak and heartache, but we find ourselves immensely grateful and excited to start this new chapter of our lives. Our thoughts go out to those who continue with a similar struggle; we know just how difficult and isolating it can be.
We’ll be back with more updates (and questions!) as pregnancy continues and our baby comes into the world. For now, we offer a sincere thank you for taking the time to read our story and, as always, we greatly appreciate your support and readership–that is not something we ever take for granted!
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Any thoughts you have in response to our pregnancy announcement? Think Megatron would make a strong name that absolutely would not get a child picked on in school? (Again, we don’t know how much we’re going to feel comfortable putting ourselves and our child out there, so we’d greatly appreciate you granting us grace and patience as we find our footing and prepare to be parents!) Hearing your feedback is always appreciated, so please share your thoughts below in the comments!
Congratulations!! Best wishes to your growing family – while by definition you can’t be my favorite childless adults at Disney bloggers anymore, you’ll remain my favorite Disney bloggers 🙂 (and otherwise – Travel Caffeine is my first stop for non-Disney travel!)
Hi. Long time reader, first time commenter. Congratulations! This is wonderful news and will add even more magic to your trips to the parks. Just wait until Megatron wants to ride on the Tomorrowland Speedway at Magic Kingdom 800 times in one trip!
I would highly encourage you to check out Melinda Moyer’s book “How to Raise Kids Who Aren’t Assholes: Science-Based Strategies for Better Parenting–from Tots to Teens”.
(Unrelated… the best line of the post: “those Green Aliens are fictional and their size is not canon”)
Congratulations Tom and Sarah! I am so happy to see this update and wish you all the best as you become new parents. I struggled with infertility for several years and and it sucks so much!
As for strollers, we had twins so we had a double but it was the city mini gt brand and I know they sell single versions. We loved this stroller and would highly recommend!
So happy for you!!!!
Just returned from Disney World and saw your wonderful news. Congratulations to the both of you! Here’s to the next Disney Baby! Thank you both for all your great information on the parks. We did rope drop everyday and saw everything we wanted to see. Wishing you all the best.
HOW ABSOLUTELY WONDERFUL!!! Megatron will be so blessed to have you as parents. Sarah looks stunning in her babyglow as do you, Tom, with those neverending beaming smiles. Hope to bump into you in the parks soon.
Congratulations! Wishing you two all the best and can’t wait to read about Megatron’s experiences at Disney.
Congratulations Sarah and Tom! It’s been a few days since I visited DTB and can’t believe I almost missed this post. Thank you for deciding to share the happy news with your readers and more of your story in the process. The world is already a better place for the caring and thoughtful people you are and will be even more so with Megatron’s arrival.
Congratulations, so very happy for you, I have read all of your blogs over the years and noted the phrase ‘when we have a baby’ subtly leave your blog and suspected challenges, I prayed for you and anxiously waited for this most wonderful news (don’t know how I missed it on day 1). Thanks for sharing your personal journey I am sure it was hard but if it helps just one person going through the same it will be worth it. You will get lots of parenting advice, some good, some bad, some outright wrong, so I will not try to give a long diatribe but just say to you love that little one with all your soul and trust your gut it will never lead you astray. Congratulations again and I can’t wait to ‘meet’ the newest member of the family.
Congratulations again, and I just wanted to pass on advice that unexpectedly resonated with us. We, luckily, did not struggle with infertility, but we got a late start — met and married at 39, had our son at 40, and had our daughter 10 months later at 41 — Irish twins.
When we were pregnant with our son, we fortuitously ran into an acquaintance with three kids born B2B. They strongly recommended having them close in age, for many reasons, and mostly because I (mom) was “advanced maternal age,” we worried about secondary infertility and missing our best chances to have a second baby. As soon as I was medically cleared, we started trying and, to our surprise and delight, got pregnant with our daughter.
I know it seems crazy to try for number two (if you want more — nothing wrong with being one and done!) — but we’re so thrilled to have them close in age, and I think your family will definitely benefit having them close together.
When they’re infants, you’re in the zone of bottles, boobs, strollers, cribs, toddler beds, diaper bags, feedings, naps, car seats, and all the hideous large, bulky gear that takes over your house for the first five years or so. The kids can cycle through all the gear (and clothes!) B2B, and as they hit new milestones and outgrow the crap, you can donate or throw it away without worrying about storing for another few years in your attic/basement/garage.
Your life is already going to be consumed with the baby schedules and potty training, but it is SO gratifying and ADORABLE to see the kids enjoying the same shows, movies, rides, playground activities at the same time — and if you’re lucky like us, with each other! OMG. Our heart melts how sweet they are with each other.
Now they’re 9.5 and 10.5. They each have their own friends and interests, but they totally enjoy just being together in each other’s orbit, too. We do everything as a unit; rides, movies, travel, and it’s so much easier. I can’t imagine starting over potty training and missing sleep with years in between when the promised land of sleeping through the night and not changing diapers is right there, LOL.
This may strike you as nuts, and that’s totally fine, LOL. It would have struck me as insane — before I was trying to have my kids in my 40s. No regrets, just grateful.
Completely agree! We did lots of infertility treatments and were finally blessed (after some complications) on my 31st birthday. My husband had just turned 47. We had the next one 17 months later. I think everyone thought we were nuts. We took them from NY to WDW when they were almost 3 years and 18 months. We knew it was a bit much (strollers, diapers, sippy cups, naps, etc.), but we wanted to enjoy them. Well, they’re 11 and almost 10 now and we’ve been 12 times, plus a Disney Cruise and we just returned from Disneyland last week. We’re enjoying every minute! Having them close in age has had us experiencing the stages together and that’s much easier now. Best Wishes!
So we ended up adopting 2 children at the same time. Not the original plan but what happened. It was like twins. It was CRAZY! Every stage was that much more intense so that can be a plus or a minus. I was 4 years older than my brother and we were never at the same school so we had a bit more separation. My kids are close but they were more in eachother’s business that I ever was with my brother. They are close but they can bother eachother more.
We did not own a double stroller. We had 2 strollers and these clips where we could make them into a double.
So pluses and minuses to having 2 very close in age. Sometimes you were happy to be out of a stage like the diaper stage but sometimes a stage went through in the flash and doing it twice you might have been able to enjoy it longer.
Yay!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So happy for you both!! Can’t wait to “meet” Megatron!!!!!! Congratulations & Good luck with the birthing! You will do great as parents! XOXO!!
Oh my gosh! This is wonderful news! I’m so very happy for you both. ❤️ Having struggled with infertility myself I completely get it. It’s so hard when every month goes by and there’s no news, especially when your friends around you get pregnant just from getting sneezed on. ♀️A close friend just told me she’s having her 6th! I was like, “what the crap! Can you have twins and give me one?” My husband and I have 1 daughter, and it took awhile to have her, but we are thankful. Never give up hope! Being an adoptee I am thankful someone took me in.
I wish we could throw you guys a big baby shower! ❤️
I am so happy for you both! I have followed you since your engagement and wedding. Enjoy these precious days of pregnancy and your precious little baby!!
Congratulations and best wishes on your adventure as parents. Thank you for sharing your deeply personal experiences. As difficult as it may be for you, by opening up and expanding dialog you have helped someone know they are not alone on their “not as smooth as they expected it to be” journey.
Amazing news! SO thrilled for you both!! can’t wait to see you guys do Disney with a bub/ toddler/ little person as they grow up… How lucky is this baby to have SO many Disney trips in their future! can you please adopt me??
I’m so glad that you shared your struggle with infertility along with the good news – I wish people could be upfront about how traumatic that journey is, so more people might understand. It took us almost 6 years of many different treatments to finally end up with healthy twins and half our family never realized what a nightmare we went through. Congratulations and best wishes for the rest of a happy, healthy pregnancy and the safe arrival of Megatron!
Oh My Goodness!!!’ I am so happy for your both and honestly a little jealous of that special baby who gets to have you for parents!! You will be amazing!!!
Thank you for speaking so eloquently and honestly about your experience with infertility, we have also experienced a similar situation and it’s one I wouldn’t wish on my worst enemies.
THIS BLOG is honestly one of the things that helped me through. Your posts are so beautifully written and would help me escape the misery a bit. When we were lucky enough to be able to plan a real trip to Disney first as a couple and then finally (!) with our daughter you made the planning and so.much.fun and I know our trips were as awesome as they were thanks to you both.
I cannot wait to “meet” your little one and see you how you share all the magic you’ve helped us find with them. CONGRATULATIONS!!
And sending love to all the families who are still waiting for their babies
And I forgot to add that we used the uppababy stroller (the smaller Cruz model) and loved it! We had the Mesa car seat and everything worked so well together. Have fun stroller testing!
Congratulations Tom and Sarah! I’ve read your blog for many years and while I’m not sure I’ve ever commented before I did want to extend my sincere congratulations and to thank you for such a thoughtful and personal post. Wishing you the best as you explore all the joy and wonders of parenthood!
CONGRATS On your Lil Blessing!!!!
Can’t wait to see Pics.
When is Sarah due?
Congratulations!! Such wonderful news! Enjoy this special magical time as you await your bundle of joy! The first year is the longest and the fastest…so, take it all in, live in the moment and enjoy one day at a time.
Congratulations!!! as a fellow IF person, I truly understand how all this feels. even after years have gone by. my kids are 22, 21 & 21. there are days when I remember. enjoy every second of this pregnancy….it goes by to fast!! enjoy every second after your little one arrives!!! remember there is no such thing as holding and cuddling too much!!!
My son is 6.5 but it feels like yesterday I was Pregnant with him and planning a Disney trip.
our last trip was in 2017 when my son was 9mths old and he was Adored by Everyone especially the Princesses. He Loved Ariel, Anna, Elsa, and Pocahontas. Also Mexican Donald